Whether you’re a top or a bottom, a condom is essential to enjoying sex. It’s important to look after yourself, your partner, and your community. Use a condom every time you have sex and you’re sorted.
Read on, watch the demonstration video, and learn how to prepare yourself for hot, safe sex.
How To Put On A Condom
A step-by-step guide to putting on a condom:
- Check the use by date on the condom to make sure it hasn’t expired. If it has, throw the condom away and get some more.
- Tear along the serrated edge of the wrapper. Don’t use your teeth — you might damage the condom.
- Make sure the condom is the right way up before you put it on your cock. If you start to put it on inside out, throw the condom away and use another one — there might be pre-come on the inside that’s going into your partner.
- Place the condom on the head of your erect dick, tip side up, and squeeze out any air.
- Roll the condom all the way down to the base of your dick. If you have a long foreskin, where the skin covers most of your dick when hard, don’t pull the foreskin back — because the condom will slide off when your foreskin slides back into place. If the condom does come off while you’re fucking, stop and put on a new one.
The Two Hander Technique
Some guys, like those with bigger dicks or longer foreskins, find a two hand job easier than the squeeze-and-roll technique:
- Unroll the condom about one centimetre and put two fingers from each hand under each side. Stretch it over your dick head, and pull down over the shaft.
- Gently unroll to the base of your cock.
After you’ve come, hold on to the base of the condom when pulling out. This is to ensure the condom doesn’t slide of while you’re removing your cock from your partner’s ass. Tie a knot in the base of the condom and dispose of it responsibly.
Practice makes perfect: if you lose your hard-on while putting a condom on, or it’s uncomfortable, try using a condom while you wank, so you can get used to the way they feel. Need some to practice with, free condoms are easy to come by.
What to do if a condom breaks
If you feel the condom break during sex, stop and put on another. It can be a difficult thing to do in the heat of the moment, but not doing so undoes all the clever work you did in putting a condom on in the first place.
If you’re a top, try to pull your cock out every so often while you’re fucking to check the condom is still intact, especially if it’s an extended session or rougher than usual. The best time to check a condom is when you’re changing positions. That way, you can re-lube and put on a new condom at the same time.
If you’re a bottom, it can be a little more difficult to check a condom is still intact. Try checking when you change positions, or pull his cock out with your hand every so often so you can feel if it’s still on.
If you don’t notice the condom has broken until after you’re done fucking, make sure you let your partner know what happened and make an appointment at a sexual health clinic.
How to Stay Safe
You can’t tell from looking at someone if they have an STI or not. If someone kicks up a fuss take a stand: if they’re not willing to put on a condom, or don’t want you to wear one, don’t have sex with them.
If you have been diagnosed with an STI, it’s important that you not only get proper treatment, but that you also inform your current and previous sexual partners so that they too can be tested and treated. Different STIs have different notification periods (and some have none), so the number of people you contact depends on what you’ve got and how many partners you’ve had.
If your partner is living with HIV and you don’t want to fuck, there are other ways to be intimate, such as massage, kissing or mutual masturbation. Oral sex is described as low risk when it comes to HIV transmission which you can read more about on our blog.
What to do if you come into contact with HIV
One option for those who come into contact with HIV is post-exposure prohylaxis, or PEP. PEP is a course of antiretroviral drugs used for people who may have been exposed to HIV during a single event. To work properly, PEP must begin within 72 hours of exposure, and it is not 100% effective. If you are sure you have been exposed to HIV, contact your healthcare provider immediately.
How Safe are Condoms?
While condoms can’t completely eliminate the risk of contracting STIs, they’re absolutely the best option available. Think of them as investing in a sexual health insurance policy; if you wear them when you’re fucking, you’re investing in the future of your sexual health.
Most condom manufacturers put their products through rigorous testing, and many exceed worldwide safety quality standards. All condoms sold in New Zealand must meet international guidelines set by the International Organisation for Standardisation (ISO) and World Health Organisation (WHO) for everything from how condoms are tested to what colour they are; manufacturers must meet these standards in order to sell their products. In addition to that, manufacturers must meet standards set domestically by the New Zealand Medicines and Medical Devices Safety Authority (Medsafe), as set by the Contraception, Sterilisation and Abortion Act 1977. While all this regulation and legislation may seem extreme, its sole purpose is to ensure that the condom you’re using is of the highest possible quality. That is, the construction materials provide adequate protection against harsh environmental conditions; the condom is an appropriate length, width and strength in relation to effectiveness, comfort and size; the manufacturer provides establishment of requirements for stability data to support stated shelf-life and expiry dates; allowances are made for inadequate systems of storage and distribution; and the packaging is appropriate and contains information on how to use condoms.
LYC is partnered with Durex, who have been making condoms for over 80 years, so you think they’d know a thing or two about crafting a safe, reliable product. Every condom they produce is electronically and dermatologically tested, and samples from every batch are tested for strength by being inflated to hold 40 litres of air without bursting (international standards require condoms need only hold 18 litres). If the sample condoms don’t pass the test, the entire batch (up to 432,000 condoms) is aborted.
With such stringent protection measures in place, it’s clear that sex without a condom just doesn’t make sense.
What condom is best for me?
Condoms are readily accessible. Most shops and petrol stations stock a decent range, and they’re relatively inexpensive when you consider all the fun you can have with them. Next time you’re in a shop, browse to see what’s on offer. The more you know about what’s out there, the better you can make an informed decision about what type of condom is right for you. Just like there are many different types of cock — all shapes and sizes — there are different types of condom. If your cock is bigger than average, you can buy a larger fitting condom. If it’s on the smaller side, you can get condoms that provide a more comfortable fit. You can get thinner condoms for a more natural feel, or thicker condoms if you’re worried about breakages. You can get ribbed or dotted condoms for added stimulation, and you can even get lubricants that provide additional sensations to increase pleasure.
Get free condoms and lube on our website, or use our condom locator map to find out where you can access free LYC condoms.
The History of the Condom
Rubbers, red letters, French ticklers, sheaths, raincoats, protection — the condom goes by many names. But no matter what you call it, the purpose is always the same, to protect you from STIs.
So, who invented condoms? It’s a question with a long answer.
The oldest recorded representation of the use of condoms goes back 12,000 years, to cave art found in France's Grotte des Combarelles: a painting of a man using a condom-like covering during sex. Various civilisations have used some form of prophylactic: ancient Egyptians are said to have used a linen sheath as protection against tropical diseases; the Chinese tried to prevent infection by wrapping oiled silk paper around the penis; the Japanese had leather and tortoiseshell sheaths; and the Romans used condoms made of goat bladders.
The story of the modern condom begins in the 1500s in Europe, where the venereal disease syphilis had reached epidemic proportions. It was during this epidemic that Italian surgeon Gabriele Falloppio authored De Morbo Gallico, which contains the earliest uncontested description of condom use. He suggested the use of a device of his own design, linen sheaths soaked in a chemical solution that covered the head of the cock (the glans), tied on with a ribbon, which would supposedly protect the user from ‘the French disease’. Following the publication of De Morbo Gallico, literary references to similarly styled devices — protective sheaths that covered either the glans or the entire penis — became commonplace. By the 18th century condoms were available in a variety of qualities and sizes, either made from treated linen, or from animal bladders or intestines.
It wasn’t until Charles Goodyear developed the rubber vulcanisation process in the mid-1800s that the condom as we know it began to take shape. The first rubber condom was produced in 1855, and by the late 1850s several companies were mass-producing reusable rubber condoms.
Latex condoms, which performed better and were stronger and thinner than rubber condoms, emerged in the 1920s, and as automated assembly lines were developed, condoms became cheaper and more accessible. In 1957, Durex introduced the world's first lubricated condom, the template for the type of condom we continue to use today.
Progress and innovation continues, and with groups like the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation offering generous research and development grants for the next generation of condom, you can be sure that condoms will continue to improve into the future.