Whether you’re a top or a bottom, using a condom allows you to enjoy great sex without worry, and it means you're looking after your own health as well as the health of others. Watch the demonstration video above, and learn how to prepare yourself for hot, safe sex.
How to put on a condom
A step-by-step guide to putting on a condom:
- Check the use-by date on the condom wrapper to make sure it hasn’t expired. If it has, or if the date has rubbed off, throw the condom away and get a new one.
- Tear along the serrated edge of the wrapper. Don’t use your teeth – you might damage the condom.
- Make sure the condom is the right way up before you put it on your cock. If you start to put it on inside out, throw the condom away and use another one – there might be precum on the side that’s going into your partner.
- Place the condom on the head of your erect dick, tip side up, and pinch the tip lightly to squeeze out any air.
- Roll the condom all the way down to the base of your dick. If you have a long foreskin, where the skin covers most of your dick when hard, don’t pull the foreskin back – because the condom will slide off when your foreskin slides back into place. If the condom does come off while you’re fucking, stop and put on a new one.
The Two-Hander Technique
Some guys, like those with bigger dicks or longer foreskins, find a two-hand job easier than the squeeze-and-roll technique:
- Unroll the condom about one centimetre and put two fingers from each hand under each side. Stretch it over your dick head, and pull down over the shaft.
- Gently unroll to the base of your cock.
After you’ve come, hold on to the base of the condom when pulling out. This is to ensure the condom doesn’t slide off while you’re removing your cock from your partner’s ass. Tie a knot in the base of the condom and throw in it in the bin. Don’t put it down the toilet – condoms are difficult to flush and might block your drains!
Practice makes perfect: if you lose your hard-on while putting a condom on, or it’s uncomfortable, try using a condom while you wank so you can get used to the way they feel. Free condoms are easy to come by if you need some to practise with!
What to do if a condom breaks
If you feel the condom break during sex, stop and put on another. It can be a difficult thing to do in the heat of the moment, but not doing so undoes all the clever work you did in putting a condom on in the first place.
If you’re a top, try to pull your cock out every so often while you’re fucking to check the condom is still intact, especially if it’s an extended session or rougher than usual. The best time to check a condom is when you’re changing positions. That way, you can reapply lube and put on a new condom at the same time.
If you’re a bottom, it can be a little more difficult to check a condom is still intact. Try checking when you change positions, or pull his cock out with your hand every so often so you can feel if it’s still on.
If you don’t notice the condom has broken until after you’re done fucking, make sure you let your partner know what happened and make an appointment at a sexual health clinic as soon as possible.
How safe are condoms?
Condoms and lube are the most effective way to protect yourself from HIV and other STIs during anal sex. This is because when used correctly and every time, latex acts as a barrier that HIV and other STIs can’t pass through.
Water or silicone-based lubricants also help by stopping the condom from ripping or coming off.
When condoms aren’t used during anal sex, the risk of contracting HIV and other STIs jumps dramatically - unprotected anal sex is 18 times risker than unprotected vaginal sex and the single greatest risk for HIV transmission.
What to do if you come into contact with HIV
If you are HIV negative and you know or even think you may have been exposed to HIV during sex with a person you know is living with HIV (for example, a condom broke or you didn’t use one), you should visit the emergency department of your local hospital as soon as possible and within 72 hours of being exposed to HIV.
You can be started on PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) – a 28-day course of anti-HIV medication that may be able to prevent you from getting infected. Find out more information about PEP.
Condoms and lube are the most effective way to protect yourself from HIV and other STIs during anal sex.